Monday, October 16, 2006

Wise advice...Maybe Moms Today Try Too Hard

A friend of mine just showed my this really cool tool, You can subscribe to your favorite blogs and check them easily, literally with one click. So one of my more favorite mommy blogs found this article and posted it. Needless to say, my favorite quote was the following:

"In the first place, there is nothing new about mothers working outside of their homes. My mother did. So did her mother. So did a significant number of my childhood buddies' mothers. What's new is guilt over doing so and consequently - large numbers of women flogging themselves into frenzies of 'I've got to make it up to my children' every evening and on weekends."

One of the moms in my mommy group told me that I am stressed because I try to entertain my son. She has learned not to do that. Maybe I need to really listen to what she said.

Click here to see the entire article.
  • Children 119: John Rosemond Advises Working Mothers: Skip the Guilt...
  • Friday, October 13, 2006

    Job Description for Mom, a Must Read

    I found this on another blog,
  • Rachel Cook's Minti Blog
  • .

    It's pretty funny. The only thing I would add, Benefit: Loving more than you ever thought possible and true happiness when you hear your child laugh.

    >> This is hysterical. If it had been presented this way, no one
    >>would have done it!!!!
    >> POSITION :
    >> Mother, Mum, Mama, Mummy, Mumma, Ma, Mom, Mommy
    >> Long term, team players needed, for challenging permanent
    >>work in an, often chaotic environment. Candidates must possess excellent
    >>communication and organizational skills and be willing to work variable
    >>hours, which will include evenings and weekends and frequent 24 hour
    >>shifts on call. Some overnight travel required, including trips to
    >>primitive camping sites on rainy weekends and endless sports tournaments
    >>in far away cities. Travel expenses not reimbursed. Extensive courier
    >>duties also required.
    >> The rest of your life. Must be willing to be hated, at least
    >>temporarily, until someone needs $5. Must be willing to bite tongue
    >>repeatedly. Also, must possess the physical stamina of a pack mule and be
    >>able to go from zero to 60 mph in three seconds flat in case, this time,
    >>the screams from the backyard are not someone just crying wolf. Must be
    >>willing to face stimulating technical
    >> Challenges, such as small gadget repair, mysteriously
    >>sluggish toilets and stuck zippers. Must screen phone calls, maintain
    >>calendars and coordinate production of multiple homework projects. Must
    >>have ability to plan and organize social gatherings for clients of all
    >>ages and mental outlooks. Must be willing to be indispensable one minute,
    >>an embarrassment the next. Must handle assembly and product safety testing
    >>of a half million cheap, plastic toys, and battery operated devices. Must
    >>always hope for the best but be prepared for the worst. Must assume final,
    >>complete accountability for the quality of the end product.
    >>Responsibilities also include floor maintenance and janitorial work
    >>throughout the facility.
    >> Virtually none. Your job is to remain in the same position
    >>for years, without complaining, constantly retraining and updating your
    >>skills, so that those in your charge can ultimately surpass you
    >> None required unfortunately. On-the-job training offered on a
    >>continually exhausting basis.
    >> Get this! You pay them! Offering frequent raises and bonuses.
    >>A balloon payment is due when they turn 18 because of the assumption that
    >>college will help them become financially
    >> Independent. When you die, you give them whatever is left.
    >>The oddest thing about this reverse-salary scheme is that you actually
    >>enjoy it and wish you could only do more.
    >> BENEFITS:
    >> While no health or dental insurance, no pension, no tuition
    >>reimbursement, no paid holidays and no stock options are offered; this job
    >>supplies limitless opportunities for personal growth and free hugs for
    >>life if you play your cards right.
    >> Tell all the Mums you know, in appreciation for
    >>everything they do on a daily basis, and let them know they are

    Thursday, October 12, 2006

    Remembering...and never forgetting all of the little, wonderful things our kids do. Keep a Journal!

    Every day my son amazes me. He is 16 months old now and I find it is the little things that make me stop and smile. I was reading another mom's blog,
  • Christian Working Mom Blog
  • , and she was asking a simple question "What do you enjoy doing the most with your kids?" You know, I have a long list, but at the same time, I forget so many things. So... I decided to document all of those things in a journal to my son, for my son. At least once a week or so, I write to him and update him on what he has been doing and how much joy he brings to our life.
    To me this is a gift that I hope he will enjoy when he is older. What do you think?

    Monday, October 09, 2006

    Join the Club...Not Enough Time in the Day...Time to Take it Back!

    Stressed out? Feel like there is not enough time in the day? Well, welcome to the club! Between work, taking care of my son and my household chores, I am exhausted. The good news is that you and I are not alone. In fact there is a whole organization mounting.

    October 24th is Take Back Your Time Day and is based on the idea of Take Four Windows of Time.
    "The concept of Take Four Windows of Time is that between Labor Day (which falls in early September) and Take Back Your Time Day (Oct. 24), participants will select four "windows" or periods of time for slow, quiet, reflective, life-renewing activities. During these four "windows" of time, which might be, for example, four Wednesday evenings, or four weekend mornings, or any four time periods appropriate to one's schedule, participants as individuals or with their families or loved ones might engage in activities such as taking a walk in the woods, playing games, eating a meal and talking together, or perhaps just sleeping! Since resisting excessive work hours and an overscheduled lifestyle is not purely a personal choice, participants are also invited to reflect on public policy initiatives which can promote more time for all."

    I just discovered this site and feel that anytime you can take for this, you should. They also have a list of suggestions. Here are some that I found helpful.
    *Sleep late
    *Join a simplicity study circle and encourage a discussion about time pressure. Find out how at
    * Unplug from telemarketers using
    * Schedule family meals each week and make a commitment to share them.
    *Turn of the TV and play a family game.
    * Cut out junk mail,
    * Learn to meditate. Practice for 10 minutes a day and slowly increase the time to 30 minutes.
    * Cancel something
    * Go for a long walk.

    For the entire list of 50 Plus Pretty Quick Things You Can Do For Take Back Your Time Day, click here.
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  • Take Back Your Time Day Website
  • Thought of the keep in mind when your spouse/partner is driving you nuts!

    My husband travels for work incessantly. I'm lucky if he is home for more than 7 or 8 days a month, and there are days when I want to scream. On our anniversary, I priest sent us a card, which I have since taped to the mirror. It said,

    "Love is patient.
    Love is kind.
    It does not want what belongs to others.
    It does not brag.
    It is not proud.
    It is not rude.
    It does not look out for its own interests.
    It does not easily become angry.
    It does not keep track of other people's wrongs.
    Love is not happy with evil.
    But it is full of joy when the truth is spoken.
    It always protects.
    It always trusts.
    It always hopes.
    It never gives up.
    Love never fails."
    1 Corinthians 13:4-8

    Sunday, October 08, 2006

    Awesome Pumpkin Patch in Silicon Valley

    We just discovered this really nice pumpkin patch in Morgan Hill, called Uesugi Farms. My expectations were pretty low, but I must say, it was quite nice.

    First of all, it is really clean and they have nice pumpkins. Secondly, they have 2 different train rides, one on a more traditional train and the 2nd is a cow train that is pulled by a tractor. I gotta tell you, the cow train was fabulous. You sit in these tiny cars that look like cows, then a tractor pulls you around the course, over little hills etc so it can be a bit bumpy! Yet even my 67-yr old mother was smiling and my 16 month old son screamed when it ended because he was having such a fun time.

    Finally, if you stop by the snack shack for something to eat, the garlic bread is spectacular!

  • Uesugi Farms Website
  • Calling all Politicians...Wake Up! You need to set a good example for our children!

    I find myself completely disgusted with the current events surronding Congressman Foley. Not only has this man been flirting with teenage boys, but now it turns out that he had sex with one when the boy was 21. This jerk sought out these boys, emailing and instant messaging them after they left Wash DC. And, let's be brutally honest...some people had to have known and did nothing.

    To everyone who knew, you had a duty to protect our children and tell someone. You have no excuse as you are a member of our Congress and must be a good role model for our children. You should admit your wrongdoing and resign. You do not deserve to serve our country!

    Monday, September 11, 2006

    Thought of the Day

    "There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects is."
    --Edith Wharton "Wit & Wisdom of Mothers"

    Are we more or less safe? Life after 9/11

    "I flipped on the 'Today' show and looked down into the contented eyes of my nuzzling infant. I had no way of knowing at that quiet moment in September that what had initially looked like a tragic airline accident would forever change the sense of safety that we felt as a nation."
  • Dot Mom's "A solemn anniversary"

  • I found the above quote on one of my favorite blogs and it made my stop and think. Are we more or less safe after Afghanistan and Iraq? Or more importantly, were we ever truly "safe" to begin with?

    To me there is no such thing as being 100% safe. Frankly, terrorists attacking me or my home is the least of my worries. My fears are more consumed by the crazy pedofiles who may try and take my little boy or the greedy men who invade homes while people are there or the gang members who kill innocent victims. It's for these reasons that I stay up late worrying.

    And let me be quite frank. I hate to fly, always have and hate it even more since 9/11. I am saddened by the sick men who use religion as a justification for their destructive behavior and I don't believe that invading other countries in the Middle East will make us safer. But let's be real...were we really ever safe to begin with? Nope, and we never will be.

    Saturday, September 09, 2006

    The 5th Anniversary of 9/11...A Time to Remember and Be Thankful

    I was one of a million...stuck on a plane over the North Atlantic Ocean on that fateful day. I was one of a few on a flight believed to be in danger. (Rumor had it that we had a bomb on our flight.) And I was one of many traveling alone, and diverted to Gander, Newfoundland, the most eastern point on North America.

    I woke up on my flight from the UK to JFK, because our captain had announced that a terrorist attack had occurred in the US. My heart jumped a bit, but at the same time I thought, how bad could it really be. The US had closed its airspace and turned us away. We were being diverted up to Gander, Newfoundland. When we landed, the RCMP police boarded almost immediately. That scared me but also comforted me. The captain wasn't saying much so I tried my cell phone. Even though I was so far away from the US, my phone actually worked and my mom was home. She screamed when she heard my voice because I was originally scheduled on a different flight and they (my mom and boyfriend) feared that I was on one of the flights that hit the World Trade Center. Fortunately for me, I did not want to be on a packed flight coming across the Atlantic to Boston and switched to one that was more open. Anyway, she told me what happened. I was stunned but at the same time, because I couldn't see it, I didn't totally comprehend it.

    Anyways, to make a long story short, we ended up staying on the plane for almost 24 hours because Gander was not equipped to process so many foreigners. (We doubled their population in one day!) The morning of 9/12, we were allowed to deplane and enter Canada. Once we were all off, we were transported to a small school about 10 miles out of Gander. I got a small space on the gym floor to call home. Fortunately for me, I was traveling on business and had my luggage with me, but many people had checked luggage and could not get to their bags (they had to stay on the plane.) Anyways, the people of Gander were awesome. Many of us had nothing, no toothbrush, clean clothes, nothing...and frankly neither did they...but people gave us anything and everything they could spare. People flooded all of the shelters bringing food and actually cooking for us. The local radio station would broadcast what was needed and where.

    We stayed there for 5 days before I joined two other men traveling on business and we all decided to do the same thing: 1. We would not fly in US airspace and 2. we were tired and wanted to go home. So we said our goodbyes and treked across the island looking for a way to leave. Slowly but surely we made our way to Toronto. We had dinner together there and then split up. I made two more stops and ended in Vancouver. One gentleman took an international flight back to London and another drove across the border and to Chicago. I cried when we said goodbye because these men had become my friends and my strength. They kept me from being afraid.

    Once I was in Vancouver, I took the Amtrak train down to Oakland where my boyfriend met me, exactly 7 days from 9/11.

    Today, we are married and have a son and as I watch all the coverage on 9/11 and what happened, I have come to this conclusion...Thank you God, for sparing my life and keeping me safe. Thank you for all of the people who made my journey home bearable, from the American flight crew to the RCMP officer who held my hand, to the friends I made and our "great escape" together. And most of all, Thank you to my mom, who while we were stuck on the plane for nearly 1 day, she called many families of the passengers on our flight, all over the world, to let them know that their loved ones where safe, and to all of the people of Gander, Newfoundland. Most are not wealthy ...but they gave us everything they could afford, including opening their homes to strangers to offer them a more comfortable place to stay. You are some of the heroes of this catastrophe and unfortunately many will never know of your kindness.
    God bless you.